An erotic massage

Given the number of professionals practicing massage with happy ending and clients adept at this type of body kneading, blunders can happen. A certain conduct is to be adopted when one calls upon the service of an erotic masseuse. Two former massage sex workers share their experiences with us.


Behaviours to be avoided

Jade* has worked in two massage parlours on the island of Montreal. Aggressions and microagressions often happened to him.

"There was a time when a client had asked for a suit (which included massage and penetration) and during the act, he tried to remove the condom by changing his position thinking I couldn't see what he was doing. He was banned from the massage parlor. »

The sex work environment is very concerned with public health. Given sexually transmitted infections, including AIDS, sexual health is a major concern. Now, condom use has become the norm during the act between the client and the sex worker. As Jade says, there will always be clients who want to get around the rules, so it's important to have a clear framework from the start.

It may also include other types of discrepancies, such as when Jade entered the room and the client had not showered. Let's just say his personal hygiene left a lot to be desired. However, when the client arrived, the manager explained that the shower was mandatory, before and after the session.

Celia*, an ex-professional erotic massage practitioner, began practicing the profession at the age of 18. In four years, she has worked in a dozen trade shows in Montreal and Quebec City. She's seen a lot of bad customers.

"Once, in Quebec City, a resentful customer came to the salon to see the masseuse he had [...] He complained that she had insulted him [...] He pretended to leave and turned around with a gun. He ran into the girls' room to find the masseuse and shot her. Fortunately, it was a pellet gun, and he aimed at the arm before he fled. »

Behaviours to encourage

There are bad customers, but there are also good ones. Sex workers greatly encourage compliments, respect for limits, respect for protection, good comments to leave on Internet forums and so on.

According to Celia, compliments are common, both during and after the session. Feeling valued by being complimented on the quality of your work is always pleasant, whether you are a hairdresser or an erotic masseuse.

"During the session, compliments are being heard. The client also talks about it to the receptionist as he leaves the room and, even better, when the client is REALLY happy, he writes his experience on MERB[a forum of clients of masseuses, escorts, dancers]. Many fairs rely on the critics there. »

Jade explains that it can be nice to get a massage too. Sometimes the client may insist on a massage. She explains that she does this more with regular clients, since it can be dangerous to find oneself with one's back turned, without constantly having the client in mind. However, there is nothing wrong with offering it and, if she is comfortable, she will accept and it will probably please her.

So what are the characteristics of the perfect customer?

He's got the cash on him. He is polite to masseuses when it comes time to meet them. He takes his shower before the session, even if he has already taken it home. He respectfully presents himself to his masseuse and does not negotiate the price. He mentions now what he wants as service (what he likes and dislikes). If he has special requests, he makes them kindly and is respectful towards the masseuse if she has limits. You don't touch the masseuse's face and hair if your hands are full of oil (yes, that's worth mentioning since it happens often!). He respects the compulsory use of a condom, takes a shower before leaving the establishment. He thanks the masseuse warmly and, in a perfect world, comes back to see her regularly!

Violence in the field of sex work is not new, either verbal or physical. There is an International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Sex Workers on December 17. Cases like those experienced by Celia and Jade occur every day, everywhere in the world. Everything could be done without violence and, to do so, an inclusive and feminist education must be transmitted to the clientele.